TED英语演讲稿二十几岁不可挥霍的光阴附翻译.docx
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TED英语演讲稿二十几岁不可挥霍的光阴附翻译
TED英语演讲稿:
二十几岁不可挥霍的光阴(附翻译)
wheniwasinmy20s,isawmyveryfirstpsychotherapyclient.iwasaph.d.studentinclinicalpsychologyatberkeley.shewasa26-year-oldwomannamedalex.nowalexwalkedintoherfirstsessionwearingjeansandabigslouchytop,andshedroppedontothecouchinmyofficeandkickedoffherflatsandtoldmeshewastheretotalkaboutguyproblems.nowwheniheardthis,iwassorelieved.myclassmategotanarsonistforherfirstclient.(laughter)andigotatwentysomethingwhowantedtotalkaboutboys.thisithoughticouldhandle.
butididnthandleit.withthefunnystoriesthatalexwouldbringtosession,itwaseasyformejusttonodmyheadwhilewekickedthecandowntheroad.thirtysthenew20,alexwouldsay,andasfarasicouldtell,shewasright.workhappenedlater,marriagehappenedlater,kidshappenedlater,evendeathhappenedlater.twentysomethingslikealexandihadnothingbuttime.
butbeforelong,mysupervisorpushedmetopushalexaboutherlovelife.ipushedback.
isaid,sure,shesdatingdown,shessleepingwithaknucklehead,butitsnotlikeshesgoingtomarrytheguy.
andthenmysupervisorsaid,notyet,butshemightmarrythenextone.besides,thebesttimetoworkonalexsmarriageisbeforeshehasone.
thatswhatpsychologistscallanaha!
moment.thatwasthemomentirealized,30isnotthenew20.yes,peoplesettledownlaterthantheyusedto,butthatdidntmakealexs20sadevelopmentaldowntime.thatmadealexs20sadevelopmentalsweetspot,andweweresittingthereblowingit.thatwaswhenirealizedthatthissortofbenignneglectwasarealproblem,andithadrealconsequences,notjustforalexandherlovelifebutforthecareersandthefamiliesandthefuturesoftwentysomethingseverywhere.
thereare50milliontwentysomethingsintheunitedstatesrightnow.weretalkingabout15percentofthepopulation,or100percentifyouconsiderthatnoonesgettingthroughadulthoodwithoutgoingthroughtheir20sfirst.
raiseyourhandifyoureinyour20s.ireallywanttoseesometwentysomethingshere.oh,yay!
yallsawesome.ifyouworkwithtwentysomethings,youloveatwentysomething,yourelosingsleepovertwentysomethings,iwanttoseeokay.awesome,twentysomethingsreallymatter.
soispecializeintwentysomethingsbecauseibelievethateverysingleoneofthose50milliontwentysomethingsdeservestoknowwhatpsychologists,sociologists,neurologistsandfertilityspecialistsalreadyknow:
thatclaimingyour20sisoneofthesimplest,yetmosttransformative,thingsyoucandoforwork,forlove,foryourhappiness,maybeevenfortheworld.
thisisnotmyopinion.thesearethefacts.weknowthat80percentoflifesmostdefiningmomentstakeplacebyage35.thatmeansthateightoutof10ofthedecisionsandexperiencesandaha!
momentsthatmakeyourlifewhatitiswillhavehappenedbyyourmid-30s.peoplewhoareover40,dontpanic.thiscrowdisgoingtobefine,ithink.weknowthatthefirst10yearsofacareerhasanexponentialimpactonhowmuchmoneyyouregoingtoearn.weknowthatmorethanhalfofamericansaremarriedorarelivingwithordatingtheirfuturepartnerby30.weknowthatthebraincapsoffitssecondandlastgrowthspurtinyour20sasitrewiresitselfforadulthood,whichmeansthatwhateveritisyouwanttochangeaboutyourself,nowisthetimetochangeit.weknowthatpersonalitychangesmoreduringyour20sthanatanyothertimeinlife,andweknowthatfemalefertilitypeaksatage28,andthingsgettrickyafterage35.soyour20sarethetimetoeducateyourselfaboutyourbodyandyouroptions.
sowhenwethinkaboutchilddevelopment,weallknowthatthefirstfiveyearsareacriticalperiodforlanguageandattachmentinthebrain.itsatimewhenyourordinary,day-to-daylifehasaninordinateimpactonwhoyouwillbecome.butwhatwehearlessaboutisthattheressuchathingasadultdevelopment,andour20sarethatcriticalperiodofadultdevelopment.
butthisisntwhattwentysomethingsarehearing.newspaperstalkaboutthechangingtimetableofadulthood.researcherscallthe20sanextendedadolescence.journalistscoinsillynicknamesfortwentysomethingsliketwixtersandkidults.itstrue.asaculture,wehavetrivializedwhatisactuallythedefiningdecadeofadulthood.
leonardbernsteinsaidthattoachievegreatthings,youneedaplanandnotquiteenoughtime.isntthattrue?
sowhatdoyouthinkhappenswhenyoupatatwentysomethingontheheadandyousay,youhave10extrayearstostartyourlife?
nothinghappens.youhaverobbedthatpersonofhisurgencyandambition,andabsolutelynothinghappens.
andtheneveryday,smart,interestingtwentysomethingslikeyouorlikeyoursonsanddaughterscomeintomyofficeandsaythingslikethis:
iknowmyboyfriendsnogoodforme,butthisrelationshipdoesntcount.imjustkillingtime.ortheysay,everybodysaysaslongasigetstartedonacareerbythetimeim30,illbefine.
butthenitstartstosoundlikethis:
my20sarealmostover,andihavenothingtoshowformyself.ihadabetterrsumthedayafterigraduatedfromcollege.
andthenitstartstosoundlikethis:
datinginmy20swaslikemusicalchairs.everybodywasrunningaroundandhavingfun,butthensometimearound30itwaslikethemusicturnedoffandeverybodystartedsittingdown.ididntwanttobetheonlyoneleftstandingup,sosometimesithinkimarriedmyhusbandbecausehewastheclosestchairtomeat30.
wherearethetwentysomethingshere?
donotdothat.
okay,nowthatsoundsalittleflip,butmakenomistake,thestakesareveryhigh.whenalothasbeenpushedtoyour30s,thereisenormousthirtysomethingpressuretojump-startacareer,pickacity,partnerup,andhavetwoorthreekidsinamuchshorterperiodoftime.manyofthesethingsareincompatible,andasresearchisjuststartingtoshow,simplyharderandmorestressfultodoallatonceinour30s.
thepost-millennialmidlifecrisisisntbuyingaredsportscar.itsrealizingyoucanthavethatcareeryounowwant.itsrealizingyoucanthavethatchildyounowwant,oryoucantgiveyourchildasibling.toomanythirtysomethingsandfortysomethingslookatthemselves,andatme,sittingacrosstheroom,andsayabouttheir20s,whatwasidoing?
whatwasithinking?
iwanttochangewhattwentysomethingsaredoingandthinking.
heresastoryabouthowthatcango.itsastoryaboutawomannamedemma.at25,emmacametomyofficebecauseshewas,inherwords,havinganidentitycrisis.shesaidshethoughtshemightliketoworkinartorentertainment,butshehadntdecidedyet,soshedspentthelastfewyearswaitingtablesinstead.becauseitwascheaper,shelivedwithaboyfriendwhodisplayedhistempermorethanhisambition.andashardasher20swere,herearlylifehadbeenevenharder.sheoftencriedinoursessions,butthenwouldcollectherselfbysaying,youcantpickyourfamily,butyoucanpickyourfriends.
welloneday,emmacomesinandshehangsherheadinherlap,andshesobbedformostofthehour.shedjustboughtanewaddressbook,andshedspentthemorningfillinginhermanycontacts,butthenshedbeenleftstaringatthatemptyblankthatcomesafterthewordsincaseofemergency,pleasecall....shewasnearlyhystericalwhenshelookedatmeandsaid,whosgoingtobethereformeifigetinacarwreck?
whosgoingtotakecareofmeifihavecancer?
nowinthatmoment,ittookeverythingihadnottosay,iwill.butwhatemmaneededwasntsometherapistwhoreally,reallycared.emmaneededabetterlife,andiknewthiswasherchance.ihadlearnedtoomuchsinceifirstworkedwithalextojustsittherewhileemmasdefiningdecadewentparadingby.
sooverthenextweeksandmonths,itoldemmathreethingsthateverytwentysomething,maleorfemale,deservestohear.
first,itoldemmatoforgetabouthavinganidentitycrisisandgetsomeidentitycapital.bygetidentitycapital,imeandosomethingthataddsvaluetowhoyouare.dosomethingthatsaninvestmentinwhoyoumightwanttobenext.ididntknowthefutureofemmascareer,andnooneknowsthefutureofwork,butidoknowthis:
identitycapitalbegetsidentitycapital.sonowisthetimeforthatcross-countryjob,thatinternship,thatstartupyouwanttotry.imnotdiscountingtwentysomethingexplorationhere,butiamdiscountingexplorationthatsnotsupposedtocount,which,bytheway,isnotexploration.thatsprocrastination.itoldemmatoexploreworkandmakeitcount.
second,itoldemmathattheurbantribeisoverrated.bestfriendsaregreatforgivingridestotheairport,buttwentysomethingswhohuddletogetherwithlike-mindedpeerslimitwhotheyknow,whattheyknow,howtheythink,howtheyspeak,andwheretheywork.thatnewpieceofcapital,thatnewpersontodatealmostalwayscomesfromoutsidetheinnercircle.newthingscomefromwhatarecalledourweakties,ourfriendsoffriendsoffriends.soyes,halfoftwentysomethingsareun-orunder-employed.buthalfarent,andweaktiesarehowyougetyourselfintothatgroup.halfofnewjobsareneverposted,soreachingouttoyourneighborsbossishowyougetthatun-postedjob.itsnotcheating.itsthescienceofhowinformationspreads.
lastbutnotleast,emmabelievedthatyoucantpickyourfamily,butyoucanpickyourfriends.nowthiswastrueforhergrowingup,butasatwentysomething,soonemmawouldpickherfamilywhenshepartneredwithsomeoneandcreatedafamilyofherown.itoldemmathetimetostartpickingyourfamilyisnow.nowyoumaybethinkingthat30isa
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