1、呼伦贝尔学院外国语学院学期论文 课 程：跨文化交际 题 目：The Brief Analysis of The Differences of Family Education between China and Western countries 姓 名：朱瑞 学 号：2009041215 班 级：09级英本（二）班 授课教师：常丽娟 完成日期：2012.6.2ContentsIntroduction.1.Chinese families ways of educating . 1.1On studying . 1.2 On life. 1.3 On the relationship betw
2、een children and parents. 2. Western families ways of educating. 2.1On studying. 2.2 On life. 2.3 On relationship between parents and children. 3. Chinese families values of educating .4.Western families values of educating .5.The cause of forming the difference . 5.1 The different background of eco
3、nomics. 5.2 The different background of history culture. 5.3 The different social system .6. Recommendations on family education .Conclusion.References .The Brief Analysis of The Differences of Family Education between China and Western countries Abstract. In recent years , with quality education at
4、tached great importance to , family education has become a hot topic of social concern . There are obvious differences in family education between China and Western countries . For China and the United States , different concepts of education and the ways of educating , resulted in the obvious diffe
5、rence when their children has grown up . The article attempts to analyze the differences in Chinese and Western family education , and the causes of forming the differences . Besides , it provides a conducive family educational recommendations.Key words Family education Ways of educating Values Diff
6、erencesIntroduction. Family education indicates the influence to the development of children in the process of communicating between parents and a child . It is also the most important one among all the ways of education . In view of many differences in culture , economy , family background , educat
7、ed ways , hence it results in the obvious difference in family education between China and Western countries . To recognize the fact correctly will promote the development of family education in our country . For Chinese families , what they focus on is “ order ” and “ obedience ” , while they pay a
8、ttention to “ fairness ” and “ freedom ” in West .Chinese parents are dominators who control their children , thus what the children only do is to accept all the arranged things submissively . Parents always decide their childrens natural development . Consequently , they have deprived of free agenc
9、y of children . However , in Western countries , parents often focus on childrens decision-making power .Under the permitted circumstances by society , children is allowed the problem they have met . 1.Chinese familys ways of educating .1.1 On studying Chinese parents pay a special attention to thei
10、r children s achievement in learning . No matter what their children want , they will satisfy childrens all the needs only is children can get a perfect performance in examination . Therefore , in daily life ,children are demanded to reading , practice and learning . As a result , their genius are i
11、gnored . Parents limit childrens creativity .Consequently , in order to cultivate the so-called genius but snuff out a real genius . Besides ,Chinese family education , the inculcated education which asks children to recite some experienced knowledge without any comprehension . Thus it leads to kill
12、 the childrens imagination and creativity .At the same time ,Chinese children is lacking of operating by hand .1.2 On life At first , what most of Chinese parents is always thinking is how to protect their own child , when his child quarrels even fights with others .Even if they know their children
13、have made a mistake , they still try to have their children got rid of the responsibility . Under this condition ,the conflicts is often raised between the two sides of parents . Besides , in China , it is the common fact that parents help their children wash clothes , make a bed ,etc . They even wa
14、nt to help their children resolve any problems that their children have faced . They dote their children and afraid them being suffered and tired . Finally , many parents will satisfy their children any economic needs , without hesitation and limits , even if the family is poor , let alone what the
15、rich do . As a result , children have no awareness of saving money in life , because they think it can be acquired easily . Day by day , children take it for granted that their parents give them money forever and without any requirements . I had ever seen a news “ It is said that a son killed his mo
16、ther , only because the mother didnt give him enough money to play net games .” What a astonished news ! We can see some educational problems from it that spoil will eventuall lead to bitter fruit .1.3On the relationship between children and parents In china , parents always say something like these
17、 , “ You must , You have to , You should ” . In their views , children is their private property . They can treat their children in any way what they want to take . Besides , children have few access to communicate with their parents . At the same time , as children afraid their parents , little by
18、little , reverse psychology appeared . Thus may make children develop themselves under the condition of departing the normal orbit . Based on the two points I have mentioned , a gap have emerged between parents and children . Children arent willing to tell their true thought to their parents . Actua
19、lly speaking , it is bad for childrens development .2.Western families ways of educating.2.1 On studying In Western countries , parents focus on that children can “ realize ” knowledge by thinking . So they encourage their children to find something new , to operate , to dare to bring forward questi
20、ons . When foreign teachers have classes , they often say “ Questions ? Any questions ? I like questions ” In fact ,parents is also like teachers . They rouse childrens imagination and creativities . They allow their children query and challenge the knowledge in the book . So most of western childre
21、n think actively , operate masterly.2.2 On life Western countries advocate a independent life , parents think it is the most important for children to cultivate the ability of independent , and children are asked to make a decision by themselves without parent involving . Besides , parents give thei
22、r children money regularly . In addition , they encourage their children to do some part-time jobs . In order to cultivate strong quality of hard-working , children would rather be suffered rather than be coddled . Moreover , parents educate their children to donate and save money .2.3 On relationsh
23、ip between parents and children In western families , children often call their parents name directly . They wouldnt be blamed because there is a democratic equal relationship between parents and children . Few parents compel their children to obey their thoughts . They wont ask their children to le
24、ad a life according to their way of life . What I have just mentioned is good for children to communicate with their parents . Children and parents , think each other as friends . 3.Chinese families values of educating In China , parents ask their children to go to school in order that their childre
25、n can make a living . In parents opinion , degree is the most important . Children must be educated in a serious way and get a good performance . Only in this way can they get the degree , thereby obtaining a decent job . If their children do good in studying , parents will hold their head high and
26、lift up their horn . Parents tell their children to combine their own interest with their familys interest . Therefore , for a child ,to go to school is not only for the sake of themselves , but also the whole familys . Children should assume the responsibility to get a decent job for familys face .
27、 Whats more ,in China , parents from different families always like comparing their children . Parents often take their own childrens advantages to compare other childrens disadvantages , thereby achieving to comfort themselves . Parents also chat about childrens grade . “ whose child is the first ? whose child is admitted to a famous university ? ” Parents will feel lose face if their children have poor
